The first step is to talk to your partner about the idea of incorporating adult toys into your relationship. You may have used sex toys in the past for your own personal use and may feel a bit skeptical and worried about how your partner will react to the idea of using sex toys, but do not be! My motto is if you do not ask you do not get, you will probably find they embrace the idea and you can begin searching together for adult toys. If they do not then you can always suggest starting off small with maybe a small finger vibrator or a bit of very light bondage but remember to explain to your partner that toys are a way to add a little spice to the relationship and will not be a replacement for your partner.
Many people will feel embarrassed about going into a sex shop and would not ask a member of staff for help or recommendations. So that is where online adult sex shops are perfect for searching together for adult toys with complete discretion and privacy. A good place to start is to find sex toys that you or your partner will not feel intimidated buy such as a finger vibrator, this way you can work your way up to bigger adult toys.
Once you both feel more comfortable using adult toys together, then you can try more exotic adult toys like bunny vibrators, flesh light toys and anal beads. As a note, it may be worth adding some lubricant with your purchase to stop any unpleasant friction.
When using toys for the first time, make sure you use it gently to find out how your partner likes it best then taking it up a notch, remember to always talk with you partner while using toys as this help to build communication in the relationship and you find out what presses you partner buttons.
As you experiment with different toys you can decide which ones are right for you as a couple. As you become more experienced you will gain enough trust in each other that buying adult toys as gifts will add a whole new excitement to your relationship both in and out the bedroom.